R/G: Rough vs Gentle

This dimension deals with the intensity and energy of touch. Rough (R) triggers adrenaline through high-intensity stimulation, while Gentle (G) provides comfort through soft sensations. According to research, 62% of women enjoy rough sex, but this depends on consent and pain management.

Rough

Rough increases pleasure through physical impact and intensity, exploring the boundary between pain and pleasure. This releases endorphins through increased blood pressure. However, excessive intensity risks injury, so start gradually.

Specific Examples

Basic Activity:

Spanking – Slapping hard with palm, getting excited by sound and impact. Asking "Harder?" while adjusting intensity
Hair pulling – Grabbing roots and tilting head back while neck kissing
Biting – Lightly biting shoulder, neck, inner thigh with teeth to leave marks
Scratching – Strongly scratching back with nails, creating long red lines
Pushing – Roughly pushing against wall or bed to dominate space

Advanced Scenario:

Choking – Lightly placing hand on neck for pressure, stimulating breathing. (Safety: Within 5 seconds, pressure control essential, no side pressure)
Face slapping – Lightly slapping cheek while saying "Look only at me" to get attention
Breath play – Briefly covering mouth and nose with hand then releasing to limit oxygen (very dangerous, experts only)
Impact play – Striking buttocks and thighs with paddle, crop, flogger
Knee spreading – Forcing knees apart and holding while taunting "Try to resist"

Full Scene:

Pushing against wall, pulling hair, rough kissing, then forcefully pushing and changing positions
Tearing clothes off and throwing on bed, then dominating from above with body weight
Standing sex while lifting one leg and pushing hard
Doggy style while spanking buttocks and pulling waist
Holding neck and making partner watch mirror while saying "Watch how I break you"

Tool Usage:

Striking with leather belt or scratching back with nails – marks remain the next day as memories
Wartenberg wheel (spike roller) rolling on skin for tingling sensation
Wolverine claws (nail enhancement tool) for enhanced scratching
Ice cubes for cold stimulation then hot mouth for contrast
Excessive vibrator use to induce overstimulation

Aftercare:

Checking for bruises or marks and applying arnica cream
Ice pack to reduce swelling
Warm shower and moisturizing
Saying "You did well, I'm proud" for emotional stability
Providing water and snacks while ensuring recovery time

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For beginners, "start with spanking to test pain limits." Rough can be combined with "raw" energy. Always set safe words, and be careful as excessive force can lead to injury.

Gentle

Gentle emphasizes slowly building pleasure and highlights sensual connection. This is good for stress relief and provides stability in long-term relationships. Promotes oxytocin (love hormone) secretion.

Specific Examples

Basic Activity:

Stroking – Lightly brushing skin with fingers, caressing, leading to kisses
Hair play – Gently brushing hair like combing, massaging scalp
Holding hands and kissing each finger while exchanging gazes
Kiss shower on forehead, cheeks, nose tip
Slowly stroking back in circles

Advanced Scenario:

Massage sex – Applying oil and slowly rubbing while checking "Feels good?"
Tantric sex – Matching breathing while moving slowly, focusing on energy exchange
Sensual bath – Lying together in bathtub with bubbles, washing each other's feet
Body worship – Kissing every part of partner's body while saying "You're so beautiful"
Face caressing – Tracing eyebrows, cheekbones, lip outline with fingers

Full Scene:

Hugging with eye contact kisses, slowly entering while matching breathing
Missionary with foreheads together, moving slowly while whispering "I love you"
Spooning from behind, holding and slowly swaying while neck kissing
Lotus position holding each other, seeing faces while moving together
One hour of only kissing and caressing without sex for foreplay

Tool Usage:

Light stimulation with feathers or silk, romantic atmosphere with music
Massage candles creating warm oil for full body massage
Rose petals scattered on bed, game of moving them one by one with mouth
Replacing bedding with soft satin sheets
Playing white noise or rain ASMR

Long-term Intimacy:

10-minute hugging routine every night to maintain connection
Writing "gratitude diary" sharing partner compliments
Couple yoga or dancing together to synchronize bodies
Regular dates to recharge romance
Handwritten letters or post-it love notes

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If you prefer Gentle, "slow build-up" is key. Communication with partner saying "be gentle" is important. A mindset of not rushing and enjoying the process itself is necessary.

Dialogue Examples

Rough dialogue

""Stick your ass out more. I'll spank you properly.""

""Can I pull your hair? Make noise if you like it.""

""Want me to choke you? Tell me when I squeeze your neck.""

""Spread your legs. I want to see you scream every time I pound hard.""

""Does it hurt? I'll make it hurt. Continue?""

Gentle dialogue

""I'll go in slowly... Are you okay? I'll match your breathing.""

""Should I touch here? I'll do it at the speed you like.""

""I'll just brush your lips lightly... Tell me if you want more.""

""I'll hold you tight with my whole body. Don't move, just feel it.""

""I'll hold you tight when you cum. Let's tremble together.""

Rough-Gentle Spectrum

Many people are somewhere between the two extremes, or preferences change depending on situation

Medium Intensity

Moderate spanking – Slapping enough to not hurt
Tight grip – Firmly holding waist or arms but not enough to bruise
Fast tempo – Not rough but rhythmically intense movement
Light push and pull – Has power but not aggressive

Contextual Switching

Start with Gentle, switch to Rough near climax
Gentle for comfort on stressful days, Rough when energy is high
Gentle sex in morning, intense sex at night
Gentle for foreplay, Rough for main sex